Are these the qualities of a true friend?

Sometimes I wonder what a true friend is. Maybe this is just rambling but these points are some things I have been trying to answer about what a true friend really is.

Do they?
Believe honesty above all is the best way to be.
Will always be there when they are needed.
Show up when asked and mutually agreed to do so.
Call you when they can not make an appointment.
Fulfill obligations to their “friends”
Blow you off when you need to talk with them.
Welcome you into their life as much as you invite them.

These are some of the things I have been pondering for some time. I find that some people tell you they are your friend but, when you need a friend they are not there. I have found in the past treating people as a friend and have been there if and when they needed things. Only to discover that I had been taken advantage of. I do hope that they are happy with their actions. I wonder if I should evaluate these people in my life and take actions accordingly.But I will say this, if my opinions of what a friend is wrong, then I am wrong. I am not above admitting when I error.I guess I am sitting here looking for others input. (If anyone ever does read this and gives a rat’s ass) I hate it when I let someone into my friendship and finding out I get …………on. (got to keep it clean here)

When is being a part of something really being a part?

Over the past few months I have been reflecting on an issue that is a recurrence of something from years ago. I have yet figured out how I feel about it.

Several years ago I got involved with an organization that I connected with and truely felt a part of. As time went by, I really felt like I belonged and would have a place within that organization. I had some personal issues come up and had to step away from what I was doing there. It was a great disapointment. As the years went by I missed being involved. After much discussion with friends I decided to get back involved.
Once again I jump in with both feet and do all I can. I have experienced some of the events that ocurred years ago all over again. Do not get me wrong I like the people that I am involved with and do not want hard feelings. However, I do get bothered when I am told how I am valued and when special events come up I am not included in them or asked if I care to participate. (even though I may not be able to do so) I would like to have the chance to say no thank you. It is amazing that you put out for an organization and when you ask for something you are shot down more often that not.
I am still trying to figure out what I should do. I do not want to up set anyone that I consider as a friend even though they may feel the same way about me. I am not that way.


Still trying to sort this all out.............BTW, MERRY.................. CHRISTMAS TO ME